April 17, 2006

Things I've learned (in relationships)

What is wasted time? What would make a previous relationship worthless? I don't know. What I do know is that I have learned different things from different people.
  • I've learned that at 16 you don't know anything.

  • I've learned that it is okay to date, for the fun of dating when you are too young to get married. You have to know that is what you are doing when approaching it or else it turns into a big mess.

  • I've learned that while Mom doesn't have to love him, the same way I might, her opinion counts.

  • I've learned that committment is a good thing, but only when its to a good person.

  • I've learned that no matter how much I want something it can't be forced.

  • I've learned that I can deal with more stuff than I thought, and sometimes it is worth the stress.

  • I've learned that I don't always have to be so independant; there is nothing wrong with letting the guy do things for me. This was a hard one.

  • I've learned that just because someone is nice, it doesn't mean they are good.

  • I've learned that I have to let go of things when they are not right, even if I don't want to.

  • I've learned that I need to make a guys respect me more. That there is some value to standing up for myself even when it does cause conflict (and I hate conflict).

  • I've learned that you can love someone and still not be with them, and it is for the best that way.

There are many other things still left for me to figure out, but I'm at a point where I've been thinking a lot about things. Right now there is so much that is unsettled. Writing it out helps.

1 comment:

nici said...

good job girlie :) its awesome to look back on things that are painful even today and at least know you learned somthing from them so they werent pointless :)